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#PrematurityAwarenssMonth Our Personal Journey - Part 4 I got shifted to normal ward. Met doctor but not baby. Doctor told we have to wait for 7 days to get confirmation whether my baby will be alive or not for sure with medical complications. OMG 7 days. It was like 7 yrs for us as parent. After a day of delivery, I was allowed to meet my baby. 24 hrs was like 24 yrs for me. Baby was at ventilator and incubator support immediately after birth.It took 7 days to touch my baby with my one finger inside incubator. How hard it is for a mother to wait for 7 days to touch her baby that too with " only a finger touch "?????( I always had dream of holding my baby immediately after birth like how all mothers usually do after delivery. But all my mother dream went away in air.)He had major Infections.So even mother not allowed to touch him / handle him for his safety till major injections wiped away. We took all precautions each time to enter into NICU ward to see baby. In Doctors list...

#PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth Our personal journey -  Part 3 Nov 1,2015 one fine Sunday. Due to over medications there was no space at my stomach even to eat lunch. But Amma's tasty preparation How can I miss? Stomach felt heavy. Went to bed. After few mins my water bag(pani kudam) got broken. My mom,hubby and me was in shock. Too soon water broken. Nov 1,2015 is just few weeks before massive flood at Chennai. We kept on calling hospital to reach doctor. No response. After 30 mins only she responded. Doctors reply "We cannot handle.We do not have facility to handle 28 weeks delivery. Just go to Ramachandra/Apollo hospital" Heavy rain outside. No power at home(Vanuvempettai). Ola/Uber nothing worked out. We had just two wheelar at home that time. Neighbours called their relative and asked them to help us. They were on their way to attend a function . Act of humanity. They came and picked up me. Car never stopped at any signal. All traffic police at each signal he...

PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth Our personal journey - Part2 We stepped into the much awaited 7th month of pregnancy. Day one of 7th mnth. From morning, I felt more discomfort that was not usual. Abdomen felt heavy with then n there pain. As usual no elder at home to check me in person. I called my Amma and explained. She thought it was normal discomfort because no clue about what was I going through. I did cooking as usual with that pain.Did Veg Briyani that day. But couldn't able to eat because of pain.Did all household work like vessels washing (My maid was on leave.And I was doing all work by not accepting my hubby's partnership on that day - bit cranky might be). Pain got increased minute by minute slowly and steadily.. Night suffered with pain without any clue why so soon. We thought it was normal. My hubby slept due to tiredness after 12 AM. Morning about 5AM (I didn't sleep whole night), I woke up him " Prabu come let's meet doctor. I cannot able to ...

#PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth #OurPersonalJourneyWithPretermBaby #Part1 We got married in May, 2013 and got pregnant (I was physically and of course he was mentally) in May 2015. We both always managed the challenges during pregnancy and after that all alone except few emergency hospital admission process. Elders in our family had their own family commitments and problems. So they could not able to support us properly during our preterm journey to till now. Due to both side family problems, I was in much stress during my pregnancy. Me and my hubby supported each other. He was under learning process to support his partner. I was in 5th mnth of pregnancy. Took scan. It was stated as polyhydrominos. We went for doc visit with scan report. Before visiting doc we just googled to know what is polyhydrominos??? It is specified as pre term chances are there. During the doc visit, we raised question as "Doc is there any chances of preterm birth"?. She scolded me stating ...

 

  Oct 15th -  Pregnancy  & Infant loss remembrance day is a day for remembrance of pregnancy loss & infant death which includes, however is not limited to, miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, and the death of a newborn. Let's discuss the least discussed topic in our country.  1.Let the parents grieve in their own space.  Do not indulge with unnecessary  advices without  understanding their actual feel. 2. Stop saying " Do not worry.  There is always second chance".  3.Even 1000 chances never equals a single loss.   4.Be it "40 days" inside womb,  Be it "Still birth",   Be it "SIDS", -- "LOSS is LOSS" 5.Stop asking the couple when is next pregnancy  plan?? 6. Stop advising "Start planning soon so that you forget the loss" 7.Parents body, mind  & medical factors needs to decide when to have their next child (or no child)after a loss.  Society should not decide. 8. Even after the loss,  th...