Busy Bee

Click Read more option to listen my audio..  

வெங்காயம் - சிறு கதை An imaginary story which reflects the children's psychology and parent's understanding towards that.

Toddlers throwing tantrums is normal. We should not expect them to behave like adults.  As parents,  We should learn the way to handle their tantrums. But it is hardest learning in the world "Uffff".  That is what we feel.  But it is not that much hard,  once your start understanding them properly.  Imagine the below scenario,  Fit in yourself there and think  what you will do???  Scenario: You are crying lungs out because of  deep sadness/cranky emotions that triggered you personally.  While you cry,  the one very close to you comes close to you and giving tight slap on your face,  scolding you to stop crying on the spot.  How do you react at that moment?  You stop crying a very next second or you cry more than before???   You feel left alone or you feel safe by words & action of your closed one at that moment???  Even as adults that solution doesn't  serve the purpose of problem. How for toddlers it serve the purpose??  But still it happens to toddlers because we as

Why always our childhood ambitions be like Teacher, Police Man, Pilot, Astronaut???  Why not an Entrepreneur??  An Entrepreneur gets recognised by people only when they get peak of success.  From our childhood,  we have mindset like either it is tough  job role or it will not yield success&money as required on time.  On daily basis,  we depend on Entrepreneurs from buying vegetables to the place where we work. But when it comes to the point of ourselves starting a business  or our children  starting business,  we hesitate & fear a lot.  First we need to learn & then we can think of becoming a master.  Break a myth about Entrepreneur and let our next generation know that being an Entrepreneur is also one of career path they can choose.  My 5 yrs old son Vihaan running an " In house Toy Restaurant" and also played the role of chef & waiter in his restaurant. He named it as " Vihaan's Restaurant".  Vihaan's learning as an entrepreneur & Chef

#PrematurityAwarnessMonth Our personal journey with Extreme Preterm baby #Part6 I am thankful to each one who travelled in my hard journey.    NICU Doctors Binu Sir & Team- Who gave their  heart and soul for my baby recovery. Who patiently replied to all our queries all time 24*7 till he turned one yr. Gynecologist Dhanalakshmi Mam & Team - First 28 days after my delivery,  when I suffered a lot because of severe vaginal infections, I cannt able to sit, stand & walk because of severe unbearable pain. But I must be active & alert all through the day & night for my child at NICU and outside NICU room.Oh my goodness,  she took care of me like her own daughter in hospital by giving more positivity to travel forward. I never forget that in my life🥰 Pediatrician Udhayakumar Sir & Team - For never ending lovable support till now. Surgeon Bala Sir & Team - When my son at 1.5 kg weight(45 days old baby) undergone surgery done by you,  still it is a great gratitude

 #PrematurityBirthAwareness  Our personal journey - Part 5 It was a beautiful day " after 30 days of his birth ," Yes finally for first time I got a chance to hold my son in my hand after he came out of ventilator support. 30 days was such a long worried wait for a mother to hold the little one..Am I right??? My little boy wore his first ever dress when he was at mom hand for first time🥰 Such a special moment to capture -(first time holding by mom with his first dress and a first click with mom). Check below pic for that memorable moment of me. I smiled a bit after 30 days. Then all treatment continued, as I said before at his " 1.5 kg" he undergone bilateral hernia surgery at his 45 th day after birth .. His heart problem PDA related treatment got failed in total of 3 attempts. Do ctor told any time it may get resolved. If not we have to do surgery at certain age (5 or 6) to resolve it. Fingers crossed. By all our positive thoughts heart probelm PDA got resolv

#PrematurityAwarenssMonth Our Personal Journey - Part 4 I got shifted to normal ward. Met doctor but not baby. Doctor told we have to wait for 7 days to get confirmation whether my baby will be alive or not for sure with medical complications. OMG 7 days. It was like 7 yrs for us as parent. After a day of delivery, I was allowed to meet my baby. 24 hrs was like 24 yrs for me. Baby was at ventilator and incubator support immediately after birth.It took 7 days to touch my baby with my one finger inside incubator. How hard it is for a mother to wait for 7 days to touch her baby that too with " only a finger touch "?????( I always had dream of holding my baby immediately after birth like how all mothers usually do after delivery. But all my mother dream went away in air.)He had major Infections.So even mother not allowed to touch him / handle him for his safety till major injections wiped away. We took all precautions each time to enter into NICU ward to see baby. In Doctors list

#PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth Our personal journey -  Part 3 Nov 1,2015 one fine Sunday. Due to over medications there was no space at my stomach even to eat lunch. But Amma's tasty preparation How can I miss? Stomach felt heavy. Went to bed. After few mins my water bag(pani kudam) got broken. My mom,hubby and me was in shock. Too soon water broken. Nov 1,2015 is just few weeks before massive flood at Chennai. We kept on calling hospital to reach doctor. No response. After 30 mins only she responded. Doctors reply "We cannot handle.We do not have facility to handle 28 weeks delivery. Just go to Ramachandra/Apollo hospital" Heavy rain outside. No power at home(Vanuvempettai). Ola/Uber nothing worked out. We had just two wheelar at home that time. Neighbours called their relative and asked them to help us. They were on their way to attend a function . Act of humanity. They came and picked up me. Car never stopped at any signal. All traffic police at each signal he

PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth Our personal journey - Part2 We stepped into the much awaited 7th month of pregnancy. Day one of 7th mnth. From morning, I felt more discomfort that was not usual. Abdomen felt heavy with then n there pain. As usual no elder at home to check me in person. I called my Amma and explained. She thought it was normal discomfort because no clue about what was I going through. I did cooking as usual with that pain.Did Veg Briyani that day. But couldn't able to eat because of pain.Did all household work like vessels washing (My maid was on leave.And I was doing all work by not accepting my hubby's partnership on that day - bit cranky might be). Pain got increased minute by minute slowly and steadily.. Night suffered with pain without any clue why so soon. We thought it was normal. My hubby slept due to tiredness after 12 AM. Morning about 5AM (I didn't sleep whole night), I woke up him " Prabu come let's meet doctor. I cannot able to

#PrematurityBirthAwarenessMonth #OurPersonalJourneyWithPretermBaby #Part1 We got married in May, 2013 and got pregnant (I was physically and of course he was mentally) in May 2015. We both always managed the challenges during pregnancy and after that all alone except few emergency hospital admission process. Elders in our family had their own family commitments and problems. So they could not able to support us properly during our preterm journey to till now. Due to both side family problems, I was in much stress during my pregnancy. Me and my hubby supported each other. He was under learning process to support his partner. I was in 5th mnth of pregnancy. Took scan. It was stated as polyhydrominos. We went for doc visit with scan report. Before visiting doc we just googled to know what is polyhydrominos??? It is specified as pre term chances are there. During the doc visit, we raised question as "Doc is there any chances of preterm birth"?. She scolded me stating &q

  Oct 15th -  Pregnancy  & Infant loss remembrance day is a day for remembrance of pregnancy loss & infant death which includes, however is not limited to, miscarriage, stillbirth, SIDS, and the death of a newborn. Let's discuss the least discussed topic in our country.  1.Let the parents grieve in their own space.  Do not indulge with unnecessary  advices without  understanding their actual feel. 2. Stop saying " Do not worry.  There is always second chance".  3.Even 1000 chances never equals a single loss.   4.Be it "40 days" inside womb,  Be it "Still birth",   Be it "SIDS", -- "LOSS is LOSS" 5.Stop asking the couple when is next pregnancy  plan?? 6. Stop advising "Start planning soon so that you forget the loss" 7.Parents body, mind  & medical factors needs to decide when to have their next child (or no child)after a loss.  Society should not decide. 8. Even after the loss,  they are still parents of the lo

Each man in family  should ask one question to themselves.. When  a woman in family cook all 365 days.  Is there any one who cook for her atleast few days fully except  her mom/mother in law??  If answer is big "NO" then something  needs to get change in family system🙃🙃🙃 Bitter truth of 90% Indian families😒 Dear Women,  Please do not over do anything in name of love/sacrifice to your family. Let them learn sharing of equal responsibilities irrespective of gender.  Remember your children tend to reflect  what you are doing now..They learn from your actions.  "DO NOT" make them believe that everyday cooking&household work is only women's job. Big threat of carry forwarding gender bias to our next generation. I know this message will not reach many. Eventhough you read, your mind will not accept it(Men&Women). Because we never in mind state to accept bitter truth/mistakes of ours. Sad state of our society.  If you wish,  you can change🙂 Change starts f

Dear Home Makers(Men/Women),  A message from me to you. Due to this pandemic many lost jobs/life. Those families in which bread winner(Only source of income) of family lost job, suddenly, their total family under financial struggles.  In those families those lost life of  bread winner of family,  totally damaged emotionally & also financially.  Hard to see their state. "Life is unpredictable".  It can throw us at any situation.  Never depend on one family member's income at home.  Once that one family member lost job/life,  you have to be in position to move forward to support family financially.  Keeping skills as "Hobby" is entirely  different  from "Making Money" out of your skills. It is hard to make money out of your skills. Never think  that your today's hobby skills can give you quick money tomorrow. Plan and just keep a derived way of  "How to make money from your skills". Have atleast one skill out of which you can make money

My son Vihaan's inspiring experience in his school. #OurExperience #SchoolManagement #Parenting  Education should also give the freedom to children  to speak what they feel about their basic valuable  rights. This is what I personally feel and taught to my dear child. Currently  there is lot of negativities spreading  about schools, teachers & online classes.  In between this,  I wish to spread some positivity regarding my son's very own experience in his school.  This post is not for doing marketing/branding any school. So am not adding school name anywhere.  Without any judgement just read for the goodness in it.  Last academic  year, same as other schools,  annual day preparation went on in my son's  school also. I am a kind of parent who usually hesitate towards annual day celebration concept,  due to various reasons which includes children's mental health(I will write seperate post regarding that) One day I got a call from  Vihaan's teacher. What she said s

#DepressionKills #DepressionSolution This is not a post saying "I am here. Contact me anytime if you are depressed".   Pls read fully. Untill I searched today in google who is " sushant singh rajput",   I never knew him before.  That much poor knowledge I have. Every life matters. I  understand all of your sadness. Indians usually feel like they are  themselves dying if some  of their favorite celebrity dies unexpectedly. So this is the right time to educate about depression.  Few signs of depression: 1.Eating more/less 2. Sleep More/less 3.Do not want to take bath/Feel like taking bath frequently 4.Speaking a lot/Keeping quite with irritable mood 5.Do not want to do nothing including  brushing your teeth 6.Angry throught out the day 7.Fear of dying soon 8.Fear of loss 9.Hating the current job (most lovable job before) 10.Love failure feeling for long. 11.Exam fear/failure guilt Etc.. If you have any one of symptom more than half a day and continuous

Sharing with you all a real time child abuse incident faced by a child.(Character names are changed). Mithu was at her 4th grade. Her father's friend Girish (A retired headmaster of govt school) was a regular visitor to Mithu's house.  One day Girish visited Mithu's house. Mithu opened the door. No one was around Mithu at that time. Girish: Hi Mithu , how are you? Mithu: I am fine Uncle. I got first rank in term examination.  Girish: Oh great to know. Come with me. Let's we go near to that closed steps. No one disturb us. We will play together. Mithu:. Heyyyy jolly... (Girish sat on steps) Girish: Baby, sit on Uncle's lap. Mithu:It is ok Uncle. I sit here itself on steps. Girish:Do not hesitate..I am your uncle. Mithu: Ok Uncle. Suddenly Girish kissed inappropriately on little Mithu's lips saying  "Good girl . You got first rank in your examination". Mithu felt something wrong going around her. But she was not sure

On June 2nd 2011, She met her( during college days). They shared their sorrows & happiness together. Both excelled in studies. Got selected in campus interviews conducted by top companies. On May 20th,2014( last day of college life) their heart felt heavy. Couldn't able to digest the fact of getting seperated. Because their relationship is more than just friendship. They were madly in love with each other.  Both joined job at same location but in different organisations. Years passed on. But their love never had stop button. Finally both decided to get marry. Discussed with parents about their secret love life. Parents replied as "Shit.Get out of this house". They (she & she) totally lost in mind. Their heart felt heavy again. Parents rejected them. Society rejected them.They didn't want to lead a secret life anymore. Decided to end their life. The very next day that is on  6th sep 2018, they closed their front door and both were in urge to kill  themselves. S